Sam has learned about health and hygeine, how to make a fantastic pizza, how to work the till, how credit/debit cards work and how to key them in.  He has learned about customer service, how to deal with awkward customers and how to say ‘I’m sorry’. He now has money so is learning how to budget his personal finances. His work colleagues are all different nationalities so Sam is learning about different cultures and languages. He is also learning how to be a dependable member of the team. His phone answering skills are now top and he has been practicing speaking clearly and coherently.

All this, and Sam has only worked 6 shifts!

What have you learned today? Don’t forget we are learning all the time – we just may not be aware of it!

I asked them how they were feeling about their lives right at this time. You may think that would be a daft question and that the answers would come back as quite negative – after all, they had been deprived of their liberty. But, once again I was amazed to get their replies. All 10 of them were in a good place and excited about the future.

Now maybe I shouldn’t have been that surprised as this had happened on my previous visits there, but this time I wanted to investigate more. So I asked them why was it that in most of my other groups outside I get replies such as ‘overwhelmed, stressed, fed up, anxious’ but with this group their responses were quite the opposite.

The answer was ‘Time’. They had time and lots of it. Doing ‘Time’ seemed really appropriate. This forced stop made them evaluate where they were going and what they were doing with their lives as a whole. They had time for discussions which each other and to learn about how different people think and act. One guy had been taught to read (actually by one of the other chaps on the course!) and he described his time at the prison as ‘at times emotional’.

I was fascinated by this eclectic group of men of all ages, race and intellect, all telling me the same thing – when you have time to think about things you start to see things differently. There are other issues though like becoming institutionalised and then becoming anxious about coming out, which are not so positive, but I learned a lot from those boys yesterday.

We MUST give ourselves time. That means stepping out of the rat race regularly. Sometimes the only time we do this is when we go on holiday and then we have other pressures. It still isn’t a state of nothingness.

So I guess if we want clarity, then we need to create space in our lives to let it in. Maybe some meditation or just some good old thinking in a quiet room or writing in a journal. It empties the brain, allows us to let go of the clutter and so let the new stuff come in. We can all use the excuse ‘ I don’t have time for that’ but that is just an excuse. In our busy lives you have to make time. Afterall, we all make time to watch the TV.

So challenge yourself in 2010 to regularly give yourself  ‘nothing’ time to reflect and then let go of anxieties and worries to let the new, good stuff come in!

My daughter works for a major high street bank. She is based at Canterbury but lives in Dover. There were no buses to get her to work today so she put her Uggs on and walked the 3 miles into the Dover Town Centre branch and did her days shift there. It wasn’t ideal, but it was the best she could do in the circumstances.

I think at times like this we all have to be flexible. The booking I had on the Isle of Sheppey this evening has been postponed and so I lose my fee for today. Normally with last minute cancellations I would charge, but in this case, it really couldn’t be helped and it would be ridiculous to expect people to turn out to an evening event. You just have to take it  on the chin and be flexible.

I must admit I am finding it very difficult to focus on my work at the moment. It is kind of a surreal situation and nothing is normal. This morning I fussed around and couldn’t settle to anything. I felt fuzzy and disorientated (no – it wasn’t hangover!) and I couldn’t work out why I felt this way. John and I chatted about it and I realised that I had just about ‘burnt out’ as I had been working, selling Ben’s calendar all over Christmas and New Year and had had only Christmas and Boxing Day off.

So here I am presented with a forced ’stop’, and I have decided to use it. Time to recognise that if you keep going, going and going, eventually you burn out and then what are you fit for? Naff all!

So, the snow may be a pain, but it has just provided me with a safety net. There’s always a positive!

The main message that I am getting from it is that if you want to be successful in life you have to think like a successful person. Sound obvious? Think about it. Track your own thoughts and the things that you say. How often has the comment ‘We can’t afford it’ passed your lips? Maybe you should change that to ‘How can we make ourselves afford it?’ Make sense?

Today I delivered a workshop to a group of fantastic young people aged from 17 -20. They had not had the best start in life but each had a dream – a vision about how they wanted their lives to be. The problem was that some of these young people had already written themselves off with comments like ‘well I would like to be a ……, but I know I never will’  When I challenged their view they would not really give a reason why they couldn’t do it, they had just convinced themselves that they couldn’t. How many times have we done that and looked back and regretted not having the courage to step out of our comfort zones and go ahead and make it happen.

When I asked one of the girls what she was afraid of, she said it was a fear of rejection, a fear of being laughed at and doubted by those around her. Our young people are so very affected by what others think about them. In Rich Dad, Poor Dad 2, the author quotes ‘what everyone else thinks about me is none of my business, what matters is what I think of myself’. Very true. In a two hour session with these young people it is not easy to help them to change their mindset – but, that change has to start somewhere – maybe today was the day for some of them. I would like to think so.

Never be afraid to ask for testimonials. What is the worst anyone can say? 99% of the time you will be asking the right person who will be only too pleased to say what they think about you, in the nicest possible way, which is not only useful, but also makes you feel fantastic!

Go for it!

it works!  lost a precious earring on Monday/Tuesday… didn’t know where… first reaction … panic.. then breathe and believe! It is out there waiting for me to find…and this morning, trodden into the mud on my dog walking territory.. there it was waiting for me xx courier problem yesterday.. got through to local franchise boss via depot in Manchester of all places as no joy locally and within half hour of speaking to him parcel was collected…. Sent boss a thank you text!  joined an evening network group last night… 50 or more people there…. made some really good connections and guess who won the draw prize of a bottle of champagnne?? !
something is definitely going on!!!!!
thank you for helping me change! x

Change your attitude – change your life! It’s simple!!

Then, during the week I went up to London to visit one of my favourite rugby player agents, and he too was talking about living in the moment and looking inside for what makes you happy – and I hadn’t had a chance to get to him!… If you see what I mean.

I was then asked to talk to the under15s and 16s for the regional rugby team and give them some motivational tips and as I finished one of local team coaches came up to me and asked if I could speak to his senior team! Seems they all want a bit of the old positive thinking. Maybe that is because it works!

So, are you doing your bit? When was the last time you simply looked at something or someone you see every day of your life and just thought to yourself – how blessed am I? You know, once you start doing it, you can’t stop! You just go round all day being grateful for what is right there in front of you. Magic!

So, how are you feeling? Are you getting up every day feeling excited about what is in store for you? Or, do you feel as though you are lacking in something? Want some energy, vitality and to restore your spice for life? Then come along to my Saturday morning seminar in Canterbury at the end of the month. Those who came along to my Folkestone seminar in January are still flying high and many are coming along to the workshops which start this week. We are 95% booked for those now but may be able to squeeze you in if you would like to come to some of them. Click here for details.
This Saturday Spring Seminar is being held at Hall Place, Harbledown and is being sponsored by Christchurch University. The lecture theatre will be red hot all morning with motivational techniques and strategies to make your life exactly what you want it to be. Fancy creating your own future in advance?
Tickets are £45 per head. bring a crowd and you can reduce the price as I am offering 5 tickets for the price of 4. What are you waiting for? Places are limited and as we booked out last time, I suggest you don’t dilly dally.
Here are some comments from those who came before:
Thank you Jill. Bigger, better and more brilliant. More please!

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Inspirational – food for thought

Brilliantly presented. Thought provoking. Jill made it ‘live’!

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Thank you Jill. Having attended other ‘motivational seminars’ previously, yours has fired me up more than before. Perhaps it is due to a more open mind but I think it’s due to your practical tools and excellent delivery.

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So, if you think that sounds promising – here are the details.

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So, if your passion was not ignitied by someone of the opposite sex, I would like to make up for it. Steady! Passion is not all about romance after all. Passion is what drives us to be successful. Passion is what keeps us from giving up what can seem, at times, impossible hills to climb. Passion is what we should be working with on a daily basis.

How are your passion levels? Want some tips on how to get them roaring? Well, now is your chance. Following on from the Power Your Way into Life Seminars, I am running a set of interactive workshops to give you all the tools you need to live the life you deserve. Why would you settle for second best? They are limited to 10 delegates and are filling up fast, so if you haven’t requested a booking form yet, email me on jill@jilltipping.co.uk and I will send you one through.

Join me for some powerful sessions in Folkestone at the beginning of March. Click here for full details.

SEE YOU THERE!

It is like that when we start anything new isn’t it. We feel totally out of our comfort zone and quite often, this is what stops us going forward – the fear of the unknown. But just pushing through that fear is what life is all about, and as soon as we realise that and recognise the feeling of butterflies in our tummies, we can deal with it, step out, achieve and feel great afterwards.

The next day I was working on similar issues of confidence but with a group of unemployed men, most of whom had recently been made redundant. Their self esteem was pretty low, although they were not that comfortable in admitting it, for completely different reasons from my Monday Mums. They were also having to step out of their comfort zones as their comfortable jobs which they knew so well were no longer there. Difficult! But, by the end of the day we were swapping ideas on the best way to secure interviews after applying for jobs and how to handle those interviews when they go that far. It was quite interesting, but none of them had ever considered starting their own business. Too scary! No, I don;t think it had ever come up on their radars.

That same evening I ran a networking session for business women in Ashford. After the girls shared their business successes, we looked at ways we could strive for financial freedom by building asset bases providing passive income.

So, all in all a pretty varied week. I finished off the week by traveling up to Kings Langley near Watford with my business partner Frances and my hubby John, to share in one of our author’s book launches. We have just published ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Get’ with Steve Grayson and he had arranged a get together and a presentation for his friends and colleagues to celebrate the launch. Boy, has he got some stories to tell. For most of his professional life he has been an undercover photojournalist for the News of the World, so you can imagine the tales he recounted to us! If you want to hear about them, buy his book (click here to go to KTP site).

So there we are, a week in the life of JT. How privileged am I to work with such a variety of interesting people.

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